As all we know, life can be difficult. As we traverse through this journey, we assemble and eclectic group of strangers along the way that help us develop into not so trashy human beings. They help us question the life we live, learn new things, go on adventures, challenge our moral view points, make us laugh, teach us how to deal with the opposite sex, etc. These strangers come in as such and grow and develop into something more; friends or even family. As we grow older, we seem to grow apart for whatever reason; college, new jobs, chasing dreams, whatever the case may be, we tend to part ways as time goes by. Why is that? It’s not for nefarious reasons, it’s just we have to do what we have to do in life. Time waits for no one. So with that being said, how do we keep our friends when we are out chasing our dreams?
That’s a question that I have not fully found an answer to. In fact, has anyone found a legitimate answer to that? Sure we have our thoughts and opinions but is there a real solution to this? Who knows. But what I do know is this, my friends are awesome and without them, my life would be a lot more difficult than it already is. My friends provide great value to me and hopefully, I provide the same. We need friends, they are the ones that tell us when we are fucking up, when we need to get our shit together, and if shit goes down, they got our backs. In any case, here are some of my opinions on how to keep and maintain your friendships.
Check Up On Them:
Sounds easy right? Wrong! I can tell you first hand, that personally, this is one of the more difficult things for me to do and keep up with. It’s not that I don’t love my friends, because I do. It’s just that I am so consumed with what I need to do, I fail to hold up my end of the communication aspect. Chances are, you’re doing the same thing. How do we fix this? Well, for starters, we have to take time out of our busy lives and at least send a “hey what’s up” text. Sounds simple, but you will be amazed at how infrequent you will do this. Force yourself to at least send something, even if you don’t a response, you’ll at least let your friends know you’re thinking of them.
Get You A Jess!
Now you may be wondering who the hell is Jess? And why should I get one? I’ll tell you! Jess (Jessica) is one of my best friends. She is a no nonsense, ball-busting, straight-shooter type of gal who always calls to check up on me. Because let’s be honest, I am the worst at checking up on people. On a serious note though, Jess is the type of friend you want in your corner. She’s the type of chick to make sure the group is good and always in contact with each other. Truth be told, if it weren’t for her, I probably wouldn’t have any friends. Like I stated earlier, I love my friends, but I’m horrible at communicating. So get you a Jess. A friend who will call you and make sure you are straight and willing to keep you in contact with your group of friends.
Let Your Friend’s Know That They Are Important To You.
Now just because I am horrible at communication, doesn’t mean that I am a bad friend. In fact, I’m an amazing friend. I’m the type of friend you can call at any hour (literally) and I’ll be there to lend an ear or give advice. I’m that dude, if you call and tell me you need my help, I’ll schedule a time to travel out to help you. Will it cost you? Of course it will (not financially, but you’ll get an earful). Chasing our dreams will consume a large portion of our time. Letting your friends know that you are there for them is extremely important
Let Them Be Your Support System.
Yes, it is important that you do what you need to do to get where you want to get. But your friends, should be the support system you need when things don’t go well. Because trust me, things won’t go smoothly. So, you’ll need your friends to help you bounce back on your feet. I couldn’t tell you how many times my friends pep talk actually fueled me to keep going on my journey. Their words of encouragement definitely has gotten me out of some depressed and sad times. I guess I should let them know that more often, but hey, they know now! So, let them be your support. I know my friends got my back and I definitely have theirs.
Overall, your true friends will understand what you are trying to accomplish in your life and are willing and able to support you along that journey. As the old saying goes, “Those who matter don’t mind. Those who mind, don’t matter”. Take your friendships seriously and let them know that you care about them. Let them know that they mean the world to you. Everyone needs help in achieving their dreams, so don’t alienate your friends along the way. Most importantly, let your friends know that you love ’em.