Life is funny. I’m not saying this in a comedic fashion or trying to give you a good chuckle. Rather, I am simply stating a fact. Life is funny. I mean think about it; we go about our daily routine thinking nothing of the actions that we are doing. We wake up, brush our teeth, eat breakfast (sometimes not at all), and head race off to work. We do this, every. Single. Day. Occasionally, we will take a pause to catch our “breath”, but not really. Our “breathers” so to speak, are pretty much any distractions other than work. Usually, these are, but not limited to, going to the hospital, lazily lying on the couch, spending some “QT” (quality time) with our significant other and/or pets. Whatever you’re vice, usually you are squeezing this within a small window of time, leaving life, something to be desired. Ironic isn’t it? So yeah, life is funny. Why? Well, because as kids, we dream, losing ourselves in thought letting our imaginations run wild. Then we grow up and become adults. Those imaginations are now muddied with deadlines, obligations, and debt. Few of us are fortunate enough to continue dreaming. They are the rare vestiges of our former youth staring at us, mocking us, flirting, and dare I say, reminding us, that life is something to be lived. Funny isn’t it? Continue reading Life Is Pretty Funny
You know? I’ve always had this idea about what love was. I thought it was this fabulous feeling that would take over you and would be everything you need to be in a strong and stable relationship (well, according to Disney anyway). Naïve me always thought that love was enough. As I grew older and experienced several heartbreaks, I began to see “love” for what it is, an emotion. Albeit, just a tad stronger than lust. I know I’m going to catch some hell for this, but love isn’t really enough (there I said it). In fact, I look at love as a crippling emotion. Now, before you jump all on my nuts screaming, “how dare you, Vlad!” or “are you serious right now?” Hear me out. I say love is crippling, because it doesn’t allow you to do what’s necessary in order to maintain a healthy relationship. Sure, love is a great feeling and everyone wants to experience that feeling, but to what extent? Are you willing to stay in an abusive relationship, because you “love” him/her? Are you willing to cheat on your significant other, because you’ve grown bored over the years, but aren’t willing to call it off, because you ‘love’ him/her? It’s nonsense if you think about it. If love was this supposed strong emotion and the cure for all of our relationship woes, then more people would be in healthier relationships. Divorce rates would be low, not high. People wouldn’t cheat on their partners (though I do have a couple of theories on this). I’m just saying love isn’t as strong as you thought it was.
Let’s be honest here, we have this delusion of what love really is. We think love is all sunshine and rainbows. It is not! Love is a bonding agent, glue if you will. And in order for this bonding agent to perform its job satisfactorily, certain conditions must be met within the relationship. It is not the answer to all, but it does play a part. Here’s my reality perspective on the emotion. Love is supposed to help you make the right decisions when it comes to your relationship. Because, let’s face it, we are humans after all and we have certain desires and needs that must be met. If you aren’t willing to satisfy those desires, why are you with that person? Love allows you to be your true self without fear. It helps you make the right decisions of maintaining a healthy relationship. Ya feel me? It drives me nuts hearing people say, “all you need is love”, like bitch, No! You need way more than to keep a relationship strong. Like all emotions, love eventually fades. Then what? What are you supposed to do in your relationship when that feeling fades?
Again, I don’t want you to think that I’m bashing love. I am not. I’m being pragmatic about the whole concept of it. Honestly, I see and hear people throw that word around and not understand the concept behind it. Personally, I think people are in love with the convenience of what love brings. Think about it. How many relationships/marriages have you witnessed, where they are saying to each other, “I love you” “Or ‘til death do us part “only to turn around and break up with that person the following week or divorce in a couple of months? I’ve personally lost count. So I know you are in the same boat. So yes, I think people are more in love with the convenience that love brings, rather than actually being in love. Looking back at all the breakups I’ve been a part of and witnessed, the first thing I can recount is the amount of times, I’ve said the “L” word or heard the “L” word in an attempt to win that individual back. Did I really love that person? I don’t know. Maybe, but I can honestly tell you now, looking back on it, I did not mean a word of it in the past. It was a desperate attempt to try to salvage the relationship.
Why do we do that? Well, let’s attempt to answer that question, shall we? I think we do this because we are afraid of being alone. For guys, we are afraid of losing the promise of pussy and for women; you are afraid of losing a potential mate or life partner (your choice). That being said, we will suffer through an unhealthy relationship and convince ourselves that we love the other person, when in reality, we aren’t. It’s striking how we can trick ourselves into accepting much less than what we deserve. Again, I say this, because love is not this end all be all emotion that is going to save or strengthen your relationship. There are numerous couples out there that are still married to one another and hate each other, but when asked publicly about their feelings towards their spouse, they’ll tell you they are in love. Yet resent each other behind closed doors. Is that love? If that’s how you define love, then you got some serious issues, homie.
Love is an interesting emotion. Do I feel love? Of course I do. I love my mom, I love my family, I love my girlfriend, I love what I do for a living and I love my passions. To me, I’ve learned what love truly is and how it functions. I don’t throw the word around all loosey-goosey. To me, it has meaning and it has impact. We all need to take a closer look at how we define and use the word. I think we use the word too often and it’s lost its value. It’s not a saving grace; it’s an emotion that is strong enough to let the other person know how you feel. Do not wield it as a weapon in a pathetic attempt to win back your significant other or as a hip new lingo to say you like someone. It’s a powerful word that elicits other emotions. Use it wisely!
Here’s a podcast version for your audio pleasure: Is Love All You Really Need In A Relationship?
Hello Ladies! Lemme holla at you for a minute about relationships. I specifically want to talk to you about how to keep your man happy. I know. I know. We are in 2018 and you girls have empowerment and such. That’s fine. Do you, boo boo. Do you. But as I look around my friends list on Facebook and see all these memes that women post of, “I don’t need a man”, or “I’m a strong independent woman, blah, blah, blah”, it saddens me to see that you are throwing away some potentially good relationships, because you don’t know how act or deal with rejection. Now, for you ladies that are in a relationship, congratulations. But don’t be fooled, just because you’re happy, doesn’t mean your man is happy. That line, “happy wife, happy life” is bullshit and you need to be checked on it. Just cuz you happy, don’t mean your man is happy. So, how do we keep your man happy? Well, the solution is simple, my dear. Sure, you can go and read all the cosmos, sex advice columns in Women’s Health Magazines, etc, etc. But those articles are mostly written by women, to women, for women and they have no idea what a men want. Shit, you don’t even know what you want on a daily basis. Yet, you gonna let some strange bitch tell you how to treat your man? Makes perfect sense. Continue doing what you’re doing and end up single. Continue reading How To Keep Your Man Happy!
I find it quite interesting that there are many blogs, videos, and streams talking about what a woman should do in a relationship when it comes to dealing with men’s negative/positive behavioral patterns. Yet, I rarely see or read anything about what a man should do about a woman’s negative/positive behavior when it comes to relationships.
Why is that? Well, I’ve pondered this question for a good bit and after doing some pseudo research, it is my belief that that market for women looking to find answers about what to do with their “no good” man vastly outnumbers men’s desires to understand women.
See, the only people that seem to understand women are other women; and they have a hard time liking each other. You know what though? Maybe it’s time for men to start challenging the shitty behaviors of women in a relationship. Let’s be honest here, if a relationship is supposed to be a “50/50 partnership”, how come it almost always falls on the man to be “perfect” or “he has to change” in the relationship?
Meanwhile, the female has a ton of leeway to do as she pleases. You can literally type into Google, “how to tell if my man is a good man”, “how to make my man do what I want”, “how to tell if a man is doing this or that” and receive a ton of feedback. Yet, if you flip the question around and replace “men” with “women”, your search results are more likely to be few and far in-between. If we are supposedly in an era of “post-modern feminism” where woman are just as capable as men, then why don’t we hold women to equal if not a higher standard in a relationship?
Sure, some of you may read this and get upset at the fact, I’m challenging the status quo. To that I say, go ahead and bitch. But if we are going to be honest and keep things equal and fair, you women need to step your game up too! There are plenty of things that women do wrong in a relationship that needs to be addressed. So why are we ignoring these acts?
Feel free to share your opinions and thoughts in the comment section. I would love to hear what you have to say about this topic.
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A couple of weeks ago, Steve from Colorado brought up an interesting point of contention in his relationship. Why do I always have to do the dishes? Makes sense right, after all, you both dirty the dishes, you both see the mess in the kitchen, and the buildup of gunk and odors that rapidly accumulates in the area where you prepare your meals is hardly unnoticeable. So why does it feel like only one person steps up to do the dishes all the time?
First off, let’s call it what it is, it’s not about dishes. Dirty dishes becomes the encompassing focus but look at that sink of chaos and every item in it is more than just a fork, a plate or a spoon. See that dirty plate- that’s all the times you do the work during sex and she lays there and then complains to her friends later that she isn’t satisfied. Oh and that coffee cup with the solidified chunks of creamer and caffeine residue – that’s really last Sunday when she interrupted the football game for the 100th time to ask which shade of pink you preferred on her nails. Really look at that overflowing mess and recognize it for what it is- feelings of resentment because things are one sided or just not fair in the relationship.
Clearly, I was wrong last week. No one saw Panthers-Bucs only scoring 21 points combined. Also the NE-LAC was a major flop. 2 of my games I honed in on failed big time. Deshaun Watson and DeAndre Hopkins against the Seahawks. Who saw that coming? I know I didn’t. I may have started them in a fantasy league of mine but they were ignored almost entirely in my optimal lineup. I consider optimal, safe and sure bets. If you look at last weeks optimal lineup, I wasn’t taking many risks. I was trying to win you and I some money. That’s the thing about fantasy sports and sports in general. Its a tough game. I’m 2-6 in 1 league but find myself 4th in points scored. Its the luck of the draw. Like I stressed last week, money and luck trump over knowledge.
I’ll take another swing at it this week. Feel free to agree or disagree.
QB – Deshaun Watson 8,100 (vs IND)
RB – Adrian Peterson 5,600 (vs SF)
RB – Alfred Morris 5,500 (vs KC)
WR – Devin Funchess 5,400 (vs ATL)
WR – Ted Ginn Jr. 5,000 (vs TB)
WR – Will Fuller V 7,000 (vs IND)
TE – Jack Doyle 4,300 (vs HOU)
FLEX – Evan Engram 5,600 (vs LAR)
DEF – Eagles 3,300 (vs DEN)
Immediately you can question 2 things here. Why Funchess for starters. Kelvin Benjamin just left town and even before then, Funchess was Newtons favorite target. He led the team in targets once Olsen went down. With Benjamin out of town and Greg Olsen still hurt and no other viable option, it has to be Funchess.
Deshaun Watson can be another one here. But he has a favorable matchup and is lighting up the scoreboard. Will Fuller seems to find the end zone with every reception he makes. They have priced DeAndre Hopkins out of reach. At 9,200 he is 1,400 more than the next WR Julio Jones. Will Fuller sits at 7k and with the 2,200 you essentially gained by picking Fuller over Hopkins it allows upgrades elsewhere.
I’m not a practically big believer in Adrian Peterson but the numbers don’t lie. SF is dreadful and they currently rank 32nd against the run. The only thing that worries me is with Drew Stanton throwing the ball, they will stack the box and wipe out the run. Despite that, I still believe he is the safe bet here.
Alfred Morris and Ted Ginn Jr. are 2 of my boom or bust guys. We know now Alfred Morris is starting in place of Ezekiel Elliott during his 6 game suspension. KC is tough against the run but we can’t ignore the Cowboys offensive line. They will open up holes for Morris and I believe at the worst, he’s good for a goal line TD. Which brings me to my 2nd choice, Ted Ginn Jr. I think the Bucs-Saints will have a high scoring game. The Saints defense has looked solid but it’ll be hard to stop all the Bucs weapons. Which will cause Brees to throw down the field and throw often. Ted Ginn will benefit here. Expect a solid day from him and at 5,000 anything more than an average game is a win here.
My 2 TEs I chose Jack Doyle and Evan Engram in the flex are their respective teams entire offenses. Doyle goes against the Texans who down many key players can’t seem to stop opposing offenses. I don’t think Doyle will repeat last weeks effort when he caught 12 balls for 121 yards and a score but I expect an 8-80-1 type game from him. Solid production for 4,300. Evan Engram goes against a tough Rams defense. He went against the Seahawks and Broncos in his last 2 games and still walked away each week with a touchdown. If Sterling Shepard sits out another week, Eli will have no choice but to keep feeding Engram. Which in turn feeds our point total.
The Eagles defense to me doesn’t need any explaining. They’ve been a great unit and with them going against the suddenly dreadful Broncos defense. They make sense. They are ranked in the middle of the pack for defenses but they will give you a good return on your investment.
Good luck everyone this week, check out my facebook page @theDailySpike for more information and any other questions you may have!
I’m going to try to provide an optimal Draft Kings lineup each week. I started back up doing draft kings about a month ago after a 2 year hiatus. So I’m still trying to get a feel
for how things work after using Fanduel for years.
I’ve come to like DK more because of the non use of a kicker and the more realistic prices. Fanduel allowed me to have a star-studded lineup and feel very confident in my squad. Only to get thumped each week.
One thing I will tell EVERYONE after not really caring about it til this past year. Do NOT enter
multi entry tournaments. I was the guy who entered 5-10 dollar leagues on a weekly basis where I believe, there was no max entries on fanduel.
I’d be playing guys who had entires that would make you scroll for what seemed to be minutes. One minor tweak in any of there lineups meant the difference between winning 20 bucks or 200 bucks.
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